Archive | August, 2012

If I Can’t Touch Me, Why Can You?

7 Aug

I’ve been feeling a little risqué lately, so instead of putting on some daring red lipstick ( ‘cause lord knows I don’t own any) or trying a new dare devil-once-in-a-lifetime- extreme bucket list activity, let’s flesh it out here. Let’s talk about the unspoken pleasure, an event I’m sure we’ve all taken part in, but are waaaay to “lady-like” to admit it…a lovely term we all know as masturbation. I know, I know it’s gross to even read it on the page, but why is that? A deed that is as natural to us as breathing? Why do we soo quickly negatively judge the safest sexual activity (speaking in likeliness if STI’s) there is?

Throughout the course of history, women have been lead into developing certain kinds of relationships, very distant relationships, with themselves and with their bodies, uncomfortable ones at best unsatisfying ones at worst. For as long as there has been an America there has been a strict and rigid format women had always been expected to follow. In America’s early years, recreational sex was never an accepted “code of conduct” for women. Those who deviated from it were women who were no longer “ladies”; women who were open about sex and pleasure techniques even till this day are criticized and condemned to an extent.

The only time I’ve ever seen female masturbation being glorified is when it is done for the sake of a partner watching. This reinforces the ostracizing of women from their own beings because the only time it is deemed ok to make YOU feel good, is for SOMEONE ELSE. If doing this is supposed to be for your own pleasure why does someone else have an agency over your body that really is only entitled to you?? Now, I am a feminist at heart and of course a lot of my sentiment and drive lies within the unjust effects our society has on the mind of us as women,but I do think it is also important to look at the stigmatization of masturbation for men as well. They have it rough. This may be one of the ONLY categories that men may be more distressed and misunderstood in than us ladies. You want to know why? It’s gross. Plain and simply put, it is nasty. Or at least that’s how mainstream media portrays it. The man who does that is usually a perv who is incapable of getting laid. At least for us, it has an appeal of being sexy to an audience. There are not many cases that I’ve witnessed or heard of where it’s attractive to see a man “taking care of himself”.

It’s immediately associated with derogatory images and events. First ones that come to mind for me are cheating, getting caught watching porn, and Pee Wee Herman, you remember him. The guy publicly jacked off inside a movie theatre? It all barrels down to very embarrassing conclusions: he’s desperate, he’s a sex addict, he has no “game”…. It’s looked at as an insult in a lot of situations. Why the hell is that? Funny how the male sexual desires are acknowledged but yet in the physicality of it, masturbation is every bit as shunned for men as it for women.

A proposal for it? Hmm, I really wish I had one. Why is America, a place where sex and masturbation in all its kinky forms raids and lives within its media and the minds of its public audiences so offended and disgusted by something so seemingly minute as this?

By the always clever and entertaining Sam Hogan. 


Victoria’s Secret Love My Body Campaign/Put Real Women in Lingerie

7 Aug

We’ve all seen them. Love your body campaigns, real beauty campaigns- we’re actually even huge supporters of them. Like I said in a previous post, it’s time to start showing that we know this is what’s up. A slight observation was made though- details, details and more details about both Victoria’s Secret and Dove’s advertisements.

Notice how the VS models are all wearing cute lingerie and the Dove models are wearing plain white bras and panties. 

This could just be a way of saying you don’t have to look a certain way to be beautiful but questions have been asked about why real women aren’t shown in lingerie.  

Interesting right? I’m not sure if anyone has done this before. And if it has been done, the whole shoot might have been labeled as scandalous or just inappropriate.



We All Don’t Want To Look Like Barbie

7 Aug

Make-up, plastic surgery,etc., the wonderful ways of life to help us look like our idol, the glamorous, all-knowing Barbie. 

Barbie has been idolized for years and still are the most popular toys (among Bratz dolls) out there for girls ages 5-8. Sad but true, many of these girls grow up thinking they are supposed to look like Barbie and unfortunately the media isn’t telling them otherwise.

Society is just beginning to realize that these images of “acceptable beauty” that are shown on television and in magazines are fake. Fake and misleading. I will be the first one to say that even though I KNOW we shouldn’t be comparing ourselves to plastic or photoshopped pictures, when I see ads I’m just like…”um, I don’t look like that.” It’s not enough for society to KNOW. It’s time to SHOW. 

The pictures in this post are Barbie to Real Women comparisons. The picture on the right is of an actual model. Looking at Barbie I’m sure she feels the way we feel when we look at her. Oh the irony. 

Personally, Barbie’s body does not appeal to me. But who am I when millions of others say that this is the way women should look? 



Gabby Douglas Making History…With Her Hair?

7 Aug

Women’s gymnastics all-around champion Gabby Douglas, 16, was confused when she Googled her name after winning at the London Olympics and all she saw were comments about her hairstyle.

“I don’t know where this is coming from. What’s wrong with my hair?” said Douglas, the first U.S. gymnast to win gold in team and all-around competition. “I’m like, `I just made history and people are focused on my hair?’ It can be bald or short, it doesn’t matter about (my) hair.”

“I don’t think people should be worried about that,” she said. “We’re all champions and we’re all winners. I just say that it’s kind of, a stupid and crazy thought to think about my hair.”

She also said her hairstyle wasn’t going to change. You go, Gabby Douglas. Read the full story here.