“…”hot” women are talismans of masculinity to be displayed to other men.”
Anyone else find this insulting? In a recent article posted on jezebel.com, Hugo Schwyzer talks about how we are attracted to what we think will attract other people. Although the article is geared towards men, women are also guilty of this which is why we’re often labeled “catty”.
As I will continue to quote his story throughout this post, I want you to think about how he himself, a man, is posting this and if you look through the comments, people are calling him “creepy”. I myself, don’t see anything wrong with his writing. I think it’s insightful, and good for him honestly. He acknowledges the body image issue in America while most men don’t.
“Eating disorders — and the broader problem of poor body image — aren’t unique to women, nor can they be attributed to one single cause. But it’s undeniable that whatever the truth about men’s desires, young women’s perception of “what guys want” plays a huge part in the pursuit of thinness. While the fashion industry deserves some blame for perpetuating an unattainable ideal, men’s refusal to acknowledge the reality of their own desires is a key aspect of the problem. In other words, it’s not that all men — or even most straight white men — genuinely prefer skinny women. It’s that for a great many men, having a thin, conventionally pretty girlfriend is a way to win status in the eyes of other men. It’s not actually about what they themselves want. Put simply, men and women alike confuse what it is that men are attracted to with what it is that men imagine will win them approval.”
Men seem to care about what other men think just as much as women do about other women. However I think in this case it’s all about winning. Guys are extremely competitive and they must always one-up each other (why do you think video games are so popular among them?).
Doesn’t reading all of this make you think that men are the catty ones?
If you’d like to read the whole article by Hugo, click here.