After reading an article ( a very good one) from the LA Times- The Porn Effect on Young Men, I’ve decided to write something similar but of course, more towards us ladies.
It wasn’t until recently that I thought about how porn really affects us. It’s kind of like Photoshop in a way (and we all know how I feel about that), It makes a not-so-always-glamorous-looking ( or feeling) thing, seem oh- so-glamorously hot and sexy. If you’ve had sex before, you know that this isn’t always the case.
Aside from creating this ideal sex scenario for guys, it also makes a lot women feel like they cannot perform “well” in this department. What we all have to remember is that pornstars aren’t real people and they aren’t really having sex.
I know, sounds crazy right? Let me explain. Although this may seem obvious, these unrealistic expectations during sex set by porn, are becoming more and more problematic because people don’t understand the following.
Pornstars are actors. Having sex is their job. A lot of the times, they’ll do things that don’t necessarily feel amazing, but they just look amazing on camera. You know that sex position that you’ve been trying and you’re wondering if you’re doing it right because you’re not getting anywhere with it? Yeah…probably not your fault.
So, here’s what I have to say: when it comes to sex, or when it comes to anything actually, you do you. Don’t try to look or act like anyone else.
PS: If you like this post, check out Sam Hogan’s post about Women and Sex.
